WHAT TO READ, HEAR, AND WATCH
Reviews of the best books, audio, and video from experts, scientists and therapistsThis is where I’ll be posting reviews of books, at least one a week. The first titles will include the granddaddies of relationship books, such as
- The Willpower Instinct
- Women Who Love Too Much
- Men Who Hate Women and The Women Who Love Them
- Empathy: The Royal Road
- Men are from Mars Women are from Venus
- Books by John and Julie Gottman of The Gottman institute
- Books by Sue Johnson
- Works from The Doherty Relationship Institute
Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Wired for Dating, by Stan Tatkin
Read, watch or listen to anything - absolutely anything - by Stan Tatkin, a neurobiologist who peers into the human brain and nervous system to explain why so many of us screw up when it comes to love. Then, he provides specific instructions on how to avoid...
read moreThe Relationship Cure: A 5-Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships, by John Gottman, PhD, and Joan DeClaire
Theory, research and deep understanding are all very well and good. If attachment theory is the ball, many therapists have run with it, but few have scored touchdowns in the form of accessible, practical, how-to-fix-it user manuals such as those produced by the...
read moreThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman and Nan Silver
A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert This subtitle says it all: a make-love-last instruction book for the clueless -- more than 50% of us, according to divorce statistics. This is a manual of marriage skills for people who weren’t exposed...
read moreThe Man’s Guide to Women, by John and Julie Gottman
Give this book to the young man in your life. NOW! Before he screws it up with women. For women unfamiliar with the Gottmans, the book serves as an introduction, lite, to their way of thinking. And their thinking is important, because they are among the pre-eminent...
read moreAttached, by Levine and Heller
Oh, just another attachment theory disquisition, I thought. (I was wrong. It's not just another, it's one of the best.) Published in 2010, the book states early on that adults show attachment patterns in romance similar to the way children bond with their parents....
read moreData, A Love Story
By Amy Webb, Dutton, 2013. This mildly entertaining romp through the world of online dating contains advice to women that can be distilled as follows: keep your profile description short and sprinkle it with words like “fun-loving” and “easy-going.” As...
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